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Merge

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My son gets annoyed when a car in front of us on the on-ramp of the highway comes to a complete stop instead of merging into traffic. He points out that the sign says merge not stop. That doesn’t keep quite a few drivers from braking or slowing to a crawl. Are they afraid? aggressive? hesitant? overly cautious? fool-hearty? oblivious?

Merging onto the highway requires the driver to accelerate into the flow of traffic without causing an accident. It is recommended that you increase your speed to match that of the traffic into which you are merging. In other words, the merging vehicle should be going the same speed as the stream of drivers on the highway. The goal is to become part of the flow, not to interrupt it or to become overwhelmed by it.

Where else do we attempt to merge in life? How good are we at maintaining the integrity of who we are when attempting to join a flow presented to us. Do we harm ourselves or others with our timidity or aggression? Why not choose to enter hopefully? Put a little joy in the passenger seat. Drive with purpose and intention. Even if you are afraid. You can always take the next off-ramp.

Self Service

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If you are self-serving you do things that benefit yourself without thought or care about how your actions might inconvenience or harm others. Most people judge this to be undesirable, and yet we have a responsibility to care for ourselves, to not choose to be weak or victimized but rather brave and willing to build our confidence and abilities moment-by-moment, day-by-day. This not only benefits us and those in our most intimate spheres of interaction; it also benefits the larger community around us.

Self service isn’t about taking more than your due; it’s about taking responsibility for yourself. Take what you are due. Act on your dreams with self-awareness and self-confidence. Do not give into the self-serving demands of others that you should be selfless. Live your life true to yourself. Live your life in a manner that makes your self worthy to guide you.